tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post2753186994560227091..comments2023-06-14T02:57:20.800-05:00Comments on This Ro(a)mantic Life: WaitingThis Ro(a)mantic Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09324882155203905958noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-79199834699681246582010-05-07T18:20:15.648-05:002010-05-07T18:20:15.648-05:00Thanks, GEW. The latest update: my advisor says sh...Thanks, GEW. The latest update: my advisor says she's going to read the new chapter version this weekend. Meanwhile, I have four pages of totally new Chapter 2 making puppy eyes at me: "Please don't delete us! Please!"This Ro(a)mantic Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09324882155203905958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-88216094919333936602010-05-07T15:44:48.046-05:002010-05-07T15:44:48.046-05:00I feel your pain about dishes and about chapters.
...I feel your pain about dishes and about chapters.<br /><br />Sending patience vibes your way.<br /><br />(((CT))))Good Enough Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16531793545583712309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-67630335884718237302010-05-06T19:06:09.794-05:002010-05-06T19:06:09.794-05:00Thanks, Kristen. Kitchen sink philosophy -- it pop...Thanks, Kristen. Kitchen sink philosophy -- it pops up more often than I expect it to!This Ro(a)mantic Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09324882155203905958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-72719915246278901072010-05-06T14:59:27.671-05:002010-05-06T14:59:27.671-05:00Even while I wallow with you in your frustration, ...Even while I wallow with you in your frustration, I marvel at your metaphor of the dishwasher and the possible extensions for life as we know it: dirty mixing with clean; a process coming to an end, but not a satisfying one. The possibilities are endless. Sigh.<br /><br />Here's hoping that you find a resolution - and soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-55923322557042414842010-05-06T13:43:27.963-05:002010-05-06T13:43:27.963-05:00Funny you should ask, BLW -- this explains a bit w...Funny you should ask, BLW -- <a href="http://thisroamanticlife.blogspot.com/2009/12/la-la-la-la-not-listening.html" rel="nofollow">this</a> explains a bit why I'm without that detailed outline. I do have a narrative arc in mind now (revised and revised again as this year has progressed), but it deals more with chronology than argument. <br /><br />As for argument, I think I spent this last semester redefining what this work is really about (I thought I'd done it for the prospectus meeting eleven months ago, but you see what the committee told me to do). Makes you wonder why the meeting occurred at all and why they signed off? Sigh ... it's easy to say it's not a perfect system, but I can't suggest any fixes either. Not yet, anyway.This Ro(a)mantic Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09324882155203905958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-28044305708060254312010-05-06T12:10:38.987-05:002010-05-06T12:10:38.987-05:00You must be ready to throw things. Or at least hur...You must be ready to throw things. Or at least hurl expletives. <i>En français, aussi.</i><br /><br />Are you not working from a very detailed outline that your adviser can somehow sign off on? Something that provides the view from 5,000' as well as one that is very focused, at least for several chapters or sections? <br /><br />I'd be spitting, spitting up, and pacing in circles. Click click click, in my 4" heels.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-70905048336985056802010-05-06T10:50:47.913-05:002010-05-06T10:50:47.913-05:00You're right about momentum, FF (and I know yo...You're right about momentum, FF (and I know you know what it is to be a student away from an actual campus -- not easy)! I've been trying to maintain the habit of writing for a two-hour block most days of the week. Then there's at least a regular, dedicated time during which words make their way onto the page. At the end of the day, I can say I tried, even if there isn't a huge amount to show for it. And usually, there's something I'm glad I added or changed ...<br /><br />You ask a good question (and thank you for your kind words about my writing). This time, my advisor is right. The additions I'd made to the chapter essentially set up the rest of the project to be a different work (the central conflict the narrator was going to have to sort out changed significantly). Since that wasn't what I wanted for the project, it made sense to revise again. It took me the better part of a month to get to that understanding -- I resisted when I first read the feedback, as I didn't <i>realize</i> I was steering things so far off track -- but getting space from what I'd written helped me go back to it with fresher eyes.<br /><br />As for household roles -- I imagine we're less traditional, but there are still some things that tend to fall along gender lines. Note that I'm the one hemming those curtains ... :)This Ro(a)mantic Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09324882155203905958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-86036699319950495452010-05-06T09:33:50.740-05:002010-05-06T09:33:50.740-05:00I so admire you CT - you've been plugging away...I so admire you CT - you've been plugging away at this for so long and it's ever so hard to keep momentum when doing it at home on your own (I'm like a mini version of you at a much lower academic level). The thing is - are you so sure your adviser is correct? Do you ever think you'd be better going along with your original draft? Sorry to muddy the waters but you seem so clever and you write so well that I can't imagine you would often need to rewrite something.<br /><br />As for the dishwasher thing - it's mainly me that stacks it as I go along so this problem doesn't happen.I've sort of got the traditional woman's role in our house - something that still amazes us (I was quite a dynamic career woman in London when we first met).French Fancy...https://www.blogger.com/profile/04941577892849157015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-61792127272959241942010-05-05T14:32:32.157-05:002010-05-05T14:32:32.157-05:00Ha! We've totally done that, Jane! I think an ...Ha! We've totally done that, Jane! I think an entire drawer of forks, spoons, and knives had to be ADDED to the dishwasher as a result ...This Ro(a)mantic Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09324882155203905958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-607159596072499612010-05-05T14:27:45.460-05:002010-05-05T14:27:45.460-05:00I feel you pain! I truly do! And dirty mixed with ...I feel you pain! I truly do! And dirty mixed with clean? At least you don't put away the dirty dishes like we do in this house!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-6511457474008841292010-05-05T13:48:42.741-05:002010-05-05T13:48:42.741-05:00Believe me, SuziCate, I didn't imagine doing t...Believe me, SuziCate, I didn't imagine doing this either -- learning as I go. I think my writing temperament makes me better suited to shorter forms, but there is something satisfying about sustaining the work across a larger arc. It'll be a milestone if I can get there.This Ro(a)mantic Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09324882155203905958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-72104815513542437442010-05-05T11:54:31.355-05:002010-05-05T11:54:31.355-05:00Oh, how frustrating for you. I wish you the best. ...Oh, how frustrating for you. I wish you the best. I can't even begin to imagine writing something so long and complicated. I am impressed. And I have the same problem with my dishwasher!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-84073926764414332892010-05-05T11:17:30.265-05:002010-05-05T11:17:30.265-05:00I think we've got a solution for the dishes, K...I think we've got a solution for the dishes, Kitch, but the writing -- ?<br /><br />D and I are going to get some of those brightly colored chip clips and stick one on each of the racks to indicate things are clean. Or dirty. We haven't decided which one. But you get the idea :)This Ro(a)mantic Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09324882155203905958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356184928339139776.post-84296307252946873352010-05-05T07:30:22.562-05:002010-05-05T07:30:22.562-05:00Argh! How frustrating! I'd be feeling a little...Argh! How frustrating! I'd be feeling a little restless, too!<br /><br />By the way, we put dirty dishes in with the clean ones all the time.TKWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16409505008377005185noreply@blogger.com