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Body: in sickness and in health

I won't lie; this body and I have had our issues with each other for many years. Body image -- sure. Physical and mental overextension -- comes with being a Type A kind of girl. I still struggle with these things, so they show up from time to time in my writing.

More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)

The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.

Travel: neither here nor there

When the person you're married to lives two time zones away, you log a fair number of frequent flier miles. And if you blog about commuter relationships, you log quite a few posts en route too.

Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.

Writing: the long and short of it

Why do I do it? Good question. Maybe it's not so much that I like to write but that I have to write, even when the words refuse to stick to the page. Believe me, I've tried doing other things like majoring in biochemistry (freshman fall, many semesters ago). Within a year, I'd switched to English with a concentration in creative writing and wasn't looking back.

After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.

The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.

Heart: family and friends

I'd have a hard time explaining who I am without being able to talk about the family I grew up in as well as the people I've met beyond its bounds. But even with such context, it's not easy! In the simplest terms, I'm a first-generation Asian-American who has spent most of this life caught between cultures. That, of course, doesn't even begin to describe what I mean to, but there's my first stab at the heart of it all.

That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.

Recommended reading

What do I do when there's too much on my mind and my words won't stick to the page? I escape into someone else's thoughts. Below is a collection of books and articles that have been sources of information, inspiration, and occasional insight for my own work.

Monday, September 1, 2008

Sleepless

And not in Seattle.

I think that last wedding may have done some damage to my body clock because since getting back, I haven't been able to get my full forty winks at night. More like half that amount, followed by a lot of tossing and turning. For someone who was known to her college roommates as the girl who habitually got into bed and never moved again till morning, this is highly unusual.

We had a good time in New York -- I got in around 1 p.m. that Saturday and met up with my friends in Greenwich Village. We proceeded to talk our jaws off until D arrived in the late afternoon and then headed over to Bryant Park to ride the merry-go-round (why not?) and talk some more. Dinner followed at a random Chinese restaurant in Murray Hill (authentic, believe it or not!) and then more talking until D and I had to make a dash for the subway in order to catch our train from Penn Station to Long Island, where the wedding was going to take place the next day.

The ride was interesting, to say the least. There was construction on one section of the line that forced our particular train to divert to a station not normally on its run so that the tracks could be switched. Since it wasn't an official stop on the schedule, the train doors stayed closed. However, several large, loud guys in our car seemed to believe that it was a stop, and they started demanding that the conductor let them off. Demands led to threats about pulling the emergency brake, and then other patrons started getting involved, telling them to stop making trouble. D and I hastily grabbed our suitcases and moved to another car when one of the passengers said something about using someone's head to bash open one of the windows.

Can't say I'm sorry I don't live there anymore ...

The ceremony and reception on Sunday were lovely. Sadly, we weren't able to stay much longer than the first two hours because we had to head back to the airport for our 5 p.m. flight. But we did get to congratulate the bride and groom and wish them well, which is what mattered most. We also got to witness what was probably the best unscripted promotion for Tide to Go that we will ever see. Dave, one of our friends at the wedding, got attacked by a plate of pasta during cocktail hour, and within seconds, a sonsy middle-aged woman had the stain-removing pen out of her purse. "Here, sweetie, I've got Tide to Go!" she said, handing it to him before he had even registered what was happening.

Her husband patted his ample gut and winked. "You got one of these, you need one of those," he said, gesturing with his loaded hors d'oeuvres plate, which really did seem ready to drip spring roll sauce onto his belly. "This is what you learn after 25 years of marriage!" (all of the above spoken with an especially thick Long Island accent).

Needless to say, Dave was quite grateful -- as was his fiancée of three days. Yes, that's a wedding for next summer that we can already count on! Exciting news. Hopefully the travel will be less hectic and our visit will be longer.


The first week of class finished well, despite Monday's rustiness. My Wednesday class went beautifully -- my students are quite willing to engage in discussion! -- and my own seminars look like they're going to be interesting and helpful for my writing. Tomorrow, I'm meeting with a professor in my minor to figure out how to do independent study in her department so I can finish my requirements there. With luck, I can get that done this year and not have to deal with it while working on my thesis.

News on the home front: The owners of the house we love have dropped their price a little more! But again, not enough. Definitely nervous that someone else may put in a bid, but if it happens, so be it. Our time will come. Our realtor has pretty much figured out that we like the place -- she sent us an article about rising mortgage rates a few weeks ago to encourage us not to stall just to see if prices would come down further in the market at large -- but we're sitting tight. Hopefully the house will too until we're ready.

I got way less done this weekend than I wanted to, especially in planning my unit on Hamlet, but it's time for bed. To sleep, perchance to dream ... oh heck, just give me sleep and I'll be thrilled.

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Monday, September 1, 2008

Sleepless

And not in Seattle.

I think that last wedding may have done some damage to my body clock because since getting back, I haven't been able to get my full forty winks at night. More like half that amount, followed by a lot of tossing and turning. For someone who was known to her college roommates as the girl who habitually got into bed and never moved again till morning, this is highly unusual.

We had a good time in New York -- I got in around 1 p.m. that Saturday and met up with my friends in Greenwich Village. We proceeded to talk our jaws off until D arrived in the late afternoon and then headed over to Bryant Park to ride the merry-go-round (why not?) and talk some more. Dinner followed at a random Chinese restaurant in Murray Hill (authentic, believe it or not!) and then more talking until D and I had to make a dash for the subway in order to catch our train from Penn Station to Long Island, where the wedding was going to take place the next day.

The ride was interesting, to say the least. There was construction on one section of the line that forced our particular train to divert to a station not normally on its run so that the tracks could be switched. Since it wasn't an official stop on the schedule, the train doors stayed closed. However, several large, loud guys in our car seemed to believe that it was a stop, and they started demanding that the conductor let them off. Demands led to threats about pulling the emergency brake, and then other patrons started getting involved, telling them to stop making trouble. D and I hastily grabbed our suitcases and moved to another car when one of the passengers said something about using someone's head to bash open one of the windows.

Can't say I'm sorry I don't live there anymore ...

The ceremony and reception on Sunday were lovely. Sadly, we weren't able to stay much longer than the first two hours because we had to head back to the airport for our 5 p.m. flight. But we did get to congratulate the bride and groom and wish them well, which is what mattered most. We also got to witness what was probably the best unscripted promotion for Tide to Go that we will ever see. Dave, one of our friends at the wedding, got attacked by a plate of pasta during cocktail hour, and within seconds, a sonsy middle-aged woman had the stain-removing pen out of her purse. "Here, sweetie, I've got Tide to Go!" she said, handing it to him before he had even registered what was happening.

Her husband patted his ample gut and winked. "You got one of these, you need one of those," he said, gesturing with his loaded hors d'oeuvres plate, which really did seem ready to drip spring roll sauce onto his belly. "This is what you learn after 25 years of marriage!" (all of the above spoken with an especially thick Long Island accent).

Needless to say, Dave was quite grateful -- as was his fiancée of three days. Yes, that's a wedding for next summer that we can already count on! Exciting news. Hopefully the travel will be less hectic and our visit will be longer.


The first week of class finished well, despite Monday's rustiness. My Wednesday class went beautifully -- my students are quite willing to engage in discussion! -- and my own seminars look like they're going to be interesting and helpful for my writing. Tomorrow, I'm meeting with a professor in my minor to figure out how to do independent study in her department so I can finish my requirements there. With luck, I can get that done this year and not have to deal with it while working on my thesis.

News on the home front: The owners of the house we love have dropped their price a little more! But again, not enough. Definitely nervous that someone else may put in a bid, but if it happens, so be it. Our time will come. Our realtor has pretty much figured out that we like the place -- she sent us an article about rising mortgage rates a few weeks ago to encourage us not to stall just to see if prices would come down further in the market at large -- but we're sitting tight. Hopefully the house will too until we're ready.

I got way less done this weekend than I wanted to, especially in planning my unit on Hamlet, but it's time for bed. To sleep, perchance to dream ... oh heck, just give me sleep and I'll be thrilled.

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