Blogroll
Archives
For posts on frequently referenced topics, click the buttons to the right.
To search this blog, type in the field at the top left of the page and hit enter.
Body: in sickness and in health
More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)
The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.
Travel: neither here nor there
Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.
Writing: the long and short of it
After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.
The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.
-
-
Why My Fall Made Me Feel So Ashamed11 months ago
-
Mantras1 year ago
-
-
Things Fall Apart3 years ago
-
#MudpunchKAL20213 years ago
-
Your Hard is Hard (The Pandemic Version)4 years ago
-
-
Thank you, and a Look Ahead5 years ago
-
A New Chapter9 years ago
-
-
Overnight Research Trip9 years ago
-
how to get through a thing10 years ago
-
-
-
Heart: family and friends
That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.
Recommended reading
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Have salt, will travel
I got stranded in Dallas on Friday because of the blizzard that settled over the Texas panhandle, home of Troubadour Mom and Dad (Troubadour Mom had a birthday last week, so it was a nice reason to visit):
Image courtesy of weather.com
I expected flights to be canceled, given the numerous warnings the National Weather Service was putting out days in advance about whiteout conditions, so I packed a good chunk of work and enough cereal to cover me for two extra breakfasts (that's the one meal that's more difficult to get from airport vendors in a form that will fit my dietary restrictions).
Around the time I was finishing lunch, D called me to say our realtor needed my signature on the post-inspection repairs agreed to by the seller of our house -- preferably before the weekend. Hmm, what to do? I knew I could get to my e-mail for the documents, but where was I going to find a printer and a fax machine without being a member of any airline's elite travelers' club (with the private lounges and conference rooms for business executives on the go)?
Well, it turns out that the people who work at the information kiosks scattered around DFW's terminals have access to their own office technology. For free. They set me up with everything I needed, and within an hour of D's call, he had the forms in hand to add his own signature to.
I wish I could say the rest of my day was as productive. I nodded off more than I graded while sitting in the airport's low-slung faux-leather chairs -- I'd only had three hours of sleep on the previous night -- and by the time the last flight out was scrubbed, all I wanted was a good workout, some dinner, and a real bed. I got all of that at a hotel a few miles away after getting tickets for the next morning.
Saturday, 6 a.m.: first three flights of the day to Panhandle canceled. Grrrr.
Being slightly better rested, I plopped myself down by a plug in a wall (I've gotten pretty good at spotting these in airports since acquiring my laptop) and started editing my thesis prospectus -- it had been hanging over my head since before spring break, which is when I wrote the first draft. I also got to know the large herd of travelers also hoping to get to Panhandle. The first plane cleared to go was around 2 p.m., so we wandered in a pack thereafter, peeling off a few at a time whenever standby seats were available on flights to points northwest. I was eighteenth on the list, so I did quite a bit of wandering, but it allowed me to take breaks between editing sessions. We'd install ourselves at a gate, wait for it to board, and if we didn't get seats, we'd pack up and move on en masse to the gate for the next departure.
I finally landed in Panhandle shortly before 6 p.m., just in time for a belated birthday dinner. After cake (a sliver for me), I gave Mom the gift I'd been carrying with me for two days:
She loved it.
Thesis
- "Writing in My Father's Name: A Diary of Translated Woman's First Year" in Women Writing Culture
- Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You
- Darkroom: A Family Exposure
- Do You Remember Me?: A Father, a Daughter, and a Search for the Self
- Five Thousand Days Like This One
- Giving Up the Ghost
- Middlesex
- Simple Recipes
- The Bishop's Daughter
- The Possibility of Everything
- The Wounded Storyteller: Body, Illness, and Ethics
- Where the Body Meets Memory: An Odyssey of Race, Sexuality and Identity
On commuter relationships
- Commuter Marriages: Worth the Strain?
- Dual Career Couples: The Travails of a Commuter Marriage
- I Was in a Commuter Marriage
- Long-Distance Marriages, Better for Business?
- Love on the Road, Not on the Rocks
- Making Marriage Work from a Distance
- Survival Tips for Commuter Couples
- Ten Things Commuter Couples Need to Know
- Till Work Do Us Part
- Two Cities, Two Careers, Too Much?
Posts by label
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Have salt, will travel
I got stranded in Dallas on Friday because of the blizzard that settled over the Texas panhandle, home of Troubadour Mom and Dad (Troubadour Mom had a birthday last week, so it was a nice reason to visit):
Image courtesy of weather.com
I expected flights to be canceled, given the numerous warnings the National Weather Service was putting out days in advance about whiteout conditions, so I packed a good chunk of work and enough cereal to cover me for two extra breakfasts (that's the one meal that's more difficult to get from airport vendors in a form that will fit my dietary restrictions).
Around the time I was finishing lunch, D called me to say our realtor needed my signature on the post-inspection repairs agreed to by the seller of our house -- preferably before the weekend. Hmm, what to do? I knew I could get to my e-mail for the documents, but where was I going to find a printer and a fax machine without being a member of any airline's elite travelers' club (with the private lounges and conference rooms for business executives on the go)?
Well, it turns out that the people who work at the information kiosks scattered around DFW's terminals have access to their own office technology. For free. They set me up with everything I needed, and within an hour of D's call, he had the forms in hand to add his own signature to.
I wish I could say the rest of my day was as productive. I nodded off more than I graded while sitting in the airport's low-slung faux-leather chairs -- I'd only had three hours of sleep on the previous night -- and by the time the last flight out was scrubbed, all I wanted was a good workout, some dinner, and a real bed. I got all of that at a hotel a few miles away after getting tickets for the next morning.
Saturday, 6 a.m.: first three flights of the day to Panhandle canceled. Grrrr.
Being slightly better rested, I plopped myself down by a plug in a wall (I've gotten pretty good at spotting these in airports since acquiring my laptop) and started editing my thesis prospectus -- it had been hanging over my head since before spring break, which is when I wrote the first draft. I also got to know the large herd of travelers also hoping to get to Panhandle. The first plane cleared to go was around 2 p.m., so we wandered in a pack thereafter, peeling off a few at a time whenever standby seats were available on flights to points northwest. I was eighteenth on the list, so I did quite a bit of wandering, but it allowed me to take breaks between editing sessions. We'd install ourselves at a gate, wait for it to board, and if we didn't get seats, we'd pack up and move on en masse to the gate for the next departure.
I finally landed in Panhandle shortly before 6 p.m., just in time for a belated birthday dinner. After cake (a sliver for me), I gave Mom the gift I'd been carrying with me for two days:
She loved it.
9 comments:
- French Fancy... said...
-
Ooo - what's that in the case? Uninformed European person asks.
- April 1, 2009 at 12:13 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
-
FF, it's rock salt. They sell it here to throw on ice and snow to make it melt. It's harder to come by in Panhandle since they normally don't get much frozen precipitation. I always carry some in the car during the winter in case I get stuck somewhere.
- April 1, 2009 at 12:52 PM
- Good Enough Woman said...
-
I am impressed by your apparent sense of calm while you were stranded. I am also impressed by your problem-solving and productiveness.
- April 1, 2009 at 2:04 PM
- Katie @ makingthishome.com said...
-
haha! That's quite the gift. And quite the adventure, too. Congrats on getting the new house. That must be beyond exciting. Is it weird to think that this time on your own is drawing to an end, then? (weird but REALLY exciting, of course)
Hoping for more safe travels for you!
Katie - April 1, 2009 at 2:12 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
-
GEW, it helped that DFW is a familiar airport for me and that places to stay are fairly easy to come by in the area. When I got stuck at O'Hare last August because of a tornado, there was nothing within 40 miles! And to top that off, my checked luggage got left out on the tarmac and was badly damaged when it reached my final destination.
So relatively speaking, getting stranded in one place because of a blizzard at some other location is much less distressing :).
Katie, it's absolutely bizarre to think that all this commuting will be over soon, and yet I CANNOT WAIT to be done. I think that's what also made me especially intent on getting to Panhandle -- just to be away from the city that's been the site of all the being on my own. I love my little apartment here, but I'm ready for a home. - April 1, 2009 at 2:33 PM
- French Fancy... said...
-
Will you still blog once you are both together and cosy in your dream home? I do hope so.
- April 2, 2009 at 10:06 AM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
-
Yes, FF, I'm planning on keeping up the blogging. We won't have a commuter marriage any longer, but we will still have the two-body problem. Guess I'll have to change the subhead under the name of the blog ...
- April 2, 2009 at 6:51 PM
- Jackie said...
-
You carry that in your car! Brilliant. How did you keep it from getting your luggage all crusty?
- April 2, 2009 at 8:36 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
-
It's a new bag, Jacqueline :).
For my car, I have a plastic barrel with a screw-on lid (looks like the old Utz pretzel containers, only about half the size). I pour the salt in there, which keeps me from having to deal with leaky plastic bags. The wide mouth makes it easy to spread the salt too. - April 2, 2009 at 8:56 PM
9 comments:
Ooo - what's that in the case? Uninformed European person asks.
FF, it's rock salt. They sell it here to throw on ice and snow to make it melt. It's harder to come by in Panhandle since they normally don't get much frozen precipitation. I always carry some in the car during the winter in case I get stuck somewhere.
I am impressed by your apparent sense of calm while you were stranded. I am also impressed by your problem-solving and productiveness.
haha! That's quite the gift. And quite the adventure, too. Congrats on getting the new house. That must be beyond exciting. Is it weird to think that this time on your own is drawing to an end, then? (weird but REALLY exciting, of course)
Hoping for more safe travels for you!
Katie
GEW, it helped that DFW is a familiar airport for me and that places to stay are fairly easy to come by in the area. When I got stuck at O'Hare last August because of a tornado, there was nothing within 40 miles! And to top that off, my checked luggage got left out on the tarmac and was badly damaged when it reached my final destination.
So relatively speaking, getting stranded in one place because of a blizzard at some other location is much less distressing :).
Katie, it's absolutely bizarre to think that all this commuting will be over soon, and yet I CANNOT WAIT to be done. I think that's what also made me especially intent on getting to Panhandle -- just to be away from the city that's been the site of all the being on my own. I love my little apartment here, but I'm ready for a home.
Will you still blog once you are both together and cosy in your dream home? I do hope so.
Yes, FF, I'm planning on keeping up the blogging. We won't have a commuter marriage any longer, but we will still have the two-body problem. Guess I'll have to change the subhead under the name of the blog ...
You carry that in your car! Brilliant. How did you keep it from getting your luggage all crusty?
It's a new bag, Jacqueline :).
For my car, I have a plastic barrel with a screw-on lid (looks like the old Utz pretzel containers, only about half the size). I pour the salt in there, which keeps me from having to deal with leaky plastic bags. The wide mouth makes it easy to spread the salt too.
Post a Comment