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Body: in sickness and in health
More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)
The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.
Travel: neither here nor there
Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.
Writing: the long and short of it
After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.
The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.
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Why My Fall Made Me Feel So Ashamed11 months ago
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Mantras1 year ago
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Things Fall Apart3 years ago
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#MudpunchKAL20213 years ago
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Your Hard is Hard (The Pandemic Version)4 years ago
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Thank you, and a Look Ahead5 years ago
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A New Chapter9 years ago
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Overnight Research Trip9 years ago
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how to get through a thing10 years ago
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Heart: family and friends
That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.
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Sunday, February 28, 2010
Cracks and curlicues
It happened two weeks back, the day before Valentine's Day.
I pulled the glass out of the dishwasher that morning and noticed a small but clearly visible line under the pattern printed on its surface. It was time to retire this one, just like its twin, which cracked a few years earlier.
I bought these a decade ago from a little boutique that may or may not be in business now. I passed its window on the way home from class and went inside on a whim. These glasses were set on a sale shelf toward the back of the store with other random items.
Why these glasses? I don't completely remember how it came to be, but somehow, we adopted the curlicue as our symbol. I think it had something to do with time being a spiral -- cycling but still moving in a line. We needed a sense of forward motion but couldn't deny the detours our relationship was having to undergo. So, the curlicue. We'd doodle it on things, the way people would carve their initials on tree trunks, to remind ourselves of the possibility of a future in one location, even if we had to get there in a roundabout fashion.
So just before Valentine's Day ten years ago, I found these glasses waiting for me on that shelf. I took them back to my dorm, filled one with red and white M&Ms, and wrapped it up in cellophane. I sent that one to D and kept the other for myself. For the years we were apart, we used these. And when we had to separate for a second time, I made sure to take mine with me.
Of course, with all of that history, I can't bring myself to throw these away, but I haven't figured out what to do with them. Perhaps they'll become homes for small plants. Or candleholders. No matter what, glasses, we've had a good run. Here's to having you side by side.
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Sunday, February 28, 2010
Cracks and curlicues
It happened two weeks back, the day before Valentine's Day.
I pulled the glass out of the dishwasher that morning and noticed a small but clearly visible line under the pattern printed on its surface. It was time to retire this one, just like its twin, which cracked a few years earlier.
I bought these a decade ago from a little boutique that may or may not be in business now. I passed its window on the way home from class and went inside on a whim. These glasses were set on a sale shelf toward the back of the store with other random items.
Why these glasses? I don't completely remember how it came to be, but somehow, we adopted the curlicue as our symbol. I think it had something to do with time being a spiral -- cycling but still moving in a line. We needed a sense of forward motion but couldn't deny the detours our relationship was having to undergo. So, the curlicue. We'd doodle it on things, the way people would carve their initials on tree trunks, to remind ourselves of the possibility of a future in one location, even if we had to get there in a roundabout fashion.
So just before Valentine's Day ten years ago, I found these glasses waiting for me on that shelf. I took them back to my dorm, filled one with red and white M&Ms, and wrapped it up in cellophane. I sent that one to D and kept the other for myself. For the years we were apart, we used these. And when we had to separate for a second time, I made sure to take mine with me.
Of course, with all of that history, I can't bring myself to throw these away, but I haven't figured out what to do with them. Perhaps they'll become homes for small plants. Or candleholders. No matter what, glasses, we've had a good run. Here's to having you side by side.
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Such a great story. I love the idea of a relationship symbol. Now you've got me thinking about what ours would be...
- February 28, 2010 at 7:58 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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Thanks, Kristen! Can't wait to hear if you do come up with a symbol of your own -- we didn't consciously go out looking for one; it just fell out of a conversation in those first months of dating. Possibly another one of those late-night phone calls where I wasn't totally with it? ;)
- March 1, 2010 at 7:03 PM
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I think that is really a mark of love - to pick two specific colours out of bags and bags of M&M's to show the colours of love in such a pretty glass.
Isn't it a shame when things we love get past being used. I do agree it is much too pretty to throw away though. - March 2, 2010 at 3:08 AM
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This is lovely! How sweet that you have your own symbol! Those glasses are keepsakes, that's for sure--even if you fill them with colored stones or marbles, they'll still make you smile.
- March 2, 2010 at 9:14 AM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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FF -- I went for the one-pound bag and ate my way through the remaining ones that semester. The drugstore had a Valentine's version (red, white, and pink mix), so it cut down on the sorting.
TKW -- colored stones are a great idea! - March 3, 2010 at 1:51 PM
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You could use them as votive/candle holders. That is such a sweet story, and awesome that you guys have a symbol.
- March 3, 2010 at 6:26 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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They do lend themselves to that sort of function, don't they, SuziCate? The real question, I think, is where they'll fit in the house. If I put anything more on the end tables in the living room, there won't be surface space for things that actually need it (like glasses people really do want to drink from)!
- March 3, 2010 at 6:49 PM
7 comments:
Such a great story. I love the idea of a relationship symbol. Now you've got me thinking about what ours would be...
Thanks, Kristen! Can't wait to hear if you do come up with a symbol of your own -- we didn't consciously go out looking for one; it just fell out of a conversation in those first months of dating. Possibly another one of those late-night phone calls where I wasn't totally with it? ;)
I think that is really a mark of love - to pick two specific colours out of bags and bags of M&M's to show the colours of love in such a pretty glass.
Isn't it a shame when things we love get past being used. I do agree it is much too pretty to throw away though.
This is lovely! How sweet that you have your own symbol! Those glasses are keepsakes, that's for sure--even if you fill them with colored stones or marbles, they'll still make you smile.
FF -- I went for the one-pound bag and ate my way through the remaining ones that semester. The drugstore had a Valentine's version (red, white, and pink mix), so it cut down on the sorting.
TKW -- colored stones are a great idea!
You could use them as votive/candle holders. That is such a sweet story, and awesome that you guys have a symbol.
They do lend themselves to that sort of function, don't they, SuziCate? The real question, I think, is where they'll fit in the house. If I put anything more on the end tables in the living room, there won't be surface space for things that actually need it (like glasses people really do want to drink from)!
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