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Body: in sickness and in health
More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)
The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.
Travel: neither here nor there
Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.
Writing: the long and short of it
After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.
The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.
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Why My Fall Made Me Feel So Ashamed11 months ago
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Mantras1 year ago
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Things Fall Apart3 years ago
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#MudpunchKAL20213 years ago
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Your Hard is Hard (The Pandemic Version)4 years ago
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Thank you, and a Look Ahead5 years ago
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A New Chapter9 years ago
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Overnight Research Trip9 years ago
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how to get through a thing10 years ago
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Heart: family and friends
That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.
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Thursday, April 8, 2010
I knew it wasn't time yet
Well, last week it bloomed.
There was a bud when I got back from my February trip, but I didn't know if it would survive -- the plant had put out buds before but couldn't sustain the energy to bring them to full flower. So I watched and watered very carefully, sneaking some photos when it thought I wasn't looking.
I almost decided to plant this outside after its blossom was spent. When I picked up the gerberas two weeks ago, the florist at the grocery store tried to sell me another miniature rose. "They do wonderfully in our climate," she said -- which is true. I've seen many a happy rose in our neighborhood in summer. But I wasn't so sure about mine, given its rough start. How I understand those.
It's not so much the individual stressors -- an aphid here, a chillier night there, a few too many cloudy days in a row. It's all of them at once, too many things to react to, that would keep it stunted, possibly preventing it from ever making a full recovery. So my rose and I are staying indoors until we're ready.
Good thing, too, because it snowed today.
Thesis
- "Writing in My Father's Name: A Diary of Translated Woman's First Year" in Women Writing Culture
- Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You
- Darkroom: A Family Exposure
- Do You Remember Me?: A Father, a Daughter, and a Search for the Self
- Five Thousand Days Like This One
- Giving Up the Ghost
- Middlesex
- Simple Recipes
- The Bishop's Daughter
- The Possibility of Everything
- The Wounded Storyteller: Body, Illness, and Ethics
- Where the Body Meets Memory: An Odyssey of Race, Sexuality and Identity
On commuter relationships
- Commuter Marriages: Worth the Strain?
- Dual Career Couples: The Travails of a Commuter Marriage
- I Was in a Commuter Marriage
- Long-Distance Marriages, Better for Business?
- Love on the Road, Not on the Rocks
- Making Marriage Work from a Distance
- Survival Tips for Commuter Couples
- Ten Things Commuter Couples Need to Know
- Till Work Do Us Part
- Two Cities, Two Careers, Too Much?
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Thursday, April 8, 2010
I knew it wasn't time yet
Well, last week it bloomed.
There was a bud when I got back from my February trip, but I didn't know if it would survive -- the plant had put out buds before but couldn't sustain the energy to bring them to full flower. So I watched and watered very carefully, sneaking some photos when it thought I wasn't looking.
I almost decided to plant this outside after its blossom was spent. When I picked up the gerberas two weeks ago, the florist at the grocery store tried to sell me another miniature rose. "They do wonderfully in our climate," she said -- which is true. I've seen many a happy rose in our neighborhood in summer. But I wasn't so sure about mine, given its rough start. How I understand those.
It's not so much the individual stressors -- an aphid here, a chillier night there, a few too many cloudy days in a row. It's all of them at once, too many things to react to, that would keep it stunted, possibly preventing it from ever making a full recovery. So my rose and I are staying indoors until we're ready.
Good thing, too, because it snowed today.
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How gorgeous! You'll know when it's time (for both of you!).
- April 8, 2010 at 2:44 PM
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Very pretty! I wish I had a green thumb.
- April 8, 2010 at 3:27 PM
- Good Enough Woman said...
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So pretty! I'm impressed by your attentive and protective care-taking.
- April 8, 2010 at 3:45 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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Sherlock -- I'm hoping so :). Listening to my instincts as best I can.
SuziCate -- I definitely do not have a green thumb! Or at least, I didn't start off having one. I think I'm slowly trying to turn it green. Hence the container gardening and bulbs that don't need a lot of attention once you put them in the ground ...
GEW -- it's therapeutic for both of us, I think. Kitty fostering works a little bit the same way. (But don't tell our two guests I said so as they think they're just having a spa getaway from the shelter!) - April 8, 2010 at 5:05 PM
- BigLittleWolf said...
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Beautiful. And I love that you were able to nurture this bud into blossoming.
(No green thumb here either, but it's delightful when something grows in spite of it.) - April 8, 2010 at 5:40 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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Thanks, BLW. It was funny -- I think I was actually proud of that little plant for finally rallying. It's petite but scrappy.
- April 8, 2010 at 6:22 PM
- Corinne Cunningham said...
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What beautiful photos! That rose is breathtaking.
- April 8, 2010 at 6:53 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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Thanks, Corinne. It's nice that both camera and flower like the light in that room :)
- April 9, 2010 at 12:54 AM
- French Fancy... said...
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That is such a beautiful bloom, CT. I know exactly what you mean by this plant watch you have been on. I've never been lucky with miniature roses over here. One season and they are spent - and yet other gardens nearby seem to have the same plant coming up year after year (unless they uproot the dead ones and plant new ones when I'm not looking).
I am glad you didn't take a chance on putting it outside yet. - April 9, 2010 at 7:11 AM
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What a beautiful sign of spring!
- April 9, 2010 at 10:58 AM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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FF -- you know, in some places (like the landscaped areas around our former apartment), they really do uproot plants as soon as they're spent and replace them with new ones! I'm guessing our property manager had to keep the place looking "fresh" for potential tenants, but I do wonder what happens to the old bulbs. I have a bad feeling about where they end up.
TKW -- indeed. Helpful for chasing the Winter Uglies away. - April 9, 2010 at 2:43 PM
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So very, very beautiful. The pictures have such a serene quality. Just gorgeous.
- April 12, 2010 at 9:55 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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Serene, what a lovely word, Jane. It does have a sanctuary-like quality in there. It's the only space with a skylight.
- April 13, 2010 at 12:28 PM
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I love the struggling rose as a metaphor for life in a world of too much-ness. May you, your rose, and all of us avoid the aphids - literal and existential!
- April 13, 2010 at 8:53 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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Thanks, Kristen! Oh those existential aphids. Hope you're keeping them at bay too :)
- April 13, 2010 at 9:52 PM
15 comments:
How gorgeous! You'll know when it's time (for both of you!).
Very pretty! I wish I had a green thumb.
So pretty! I'm impressed by your attentive and protective care-taking.
Sherlock -- I'm hoping so :). Listening to my instincts as best I can.
SuziCate -- I definitely do not have a green thumb! Or at least, I didn't start off having one. I think I'm slowly trying to turn it green. Hence the container gardening and bulbs that don't need a lot of attention once you put them in the ground ...
GEW -- it's therapeutic for both of us, I think. Kitty fostering works a little bit the same way. (But don't tell our two guests I said so as they think they're just having a spa getaway from the shelter!)
Beautiful. And I love that you were able to nurture this bud into blossoming.
(No green thumb here either, but it's delightful when something grows in spite of it.)
Thanks, BLW. It was funny -- I think I was actually proud of that little plant for finally rallying. It's petite but scrappy.
What beautiful photos! That rose is breathtaking.
Thanks, Corinne. It's nice that both camera and flower like the light in that room :)
That is such a beautiful bloom, CT. I know exactly what you mean by this plant watch you have been on. I've never been lucky with miniature roses over here. One season and they are spent - and yet other gardens nearby seem to have the same plant coming up year after year (unless they uproot the dead ones and plant new ones when I'm not looking).
I am glad you didn't take a chance on putting it outside yet.
What a beautiful sign of spring!
FF -- you know, in some places (like the landscaped areas around our former apartment), they really do uproot plants as soon as they're spent and replace them with new ones! I'm guessing our property manager had to keep the place looking "fresh" for potential tenants, but I do wonder what happens to the old bulbs. I have a bad feeling about where they end up.
TKW -- indeed. Helpful for chasing the Winter Uglies away.
So very, very beautiful. The pictures have such a serene quality. Just gorgeous.
Serene, what a lovely word, Jane. It does have a sanctuary-like quality in there. It's the only space with a skylight.
I love the struggling rose as a metaphor for life in a world of too much-ness. May you, your rose, and all of us avoid the aphids - literal and existential!
Thanks, Kristen! Oh those existential aphids. Hope you're keeping them at bay too :)
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