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Body: in sickness and in health
More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)
The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.
Travel: neither here nor there
Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.
Writing: the long and short of it
After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.
The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.
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Why My Fall Made Me Feel So Ashamed11 months ago
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Mantras1 year ago
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Things Fall Apart3 years ago
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#MudpunchKAL20213 years ago
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Your Hard is Hard (The Pandemic Version)4 years ago
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Thank you, and a Look Ahead5 years ago
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A New Chapter9 years ago
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Overnight Research Trip9 years ago
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how to get through a thing10 years ago
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Heart: family and friends
That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.
Recommended reading
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
The home stretch
Things are quite different here this year -- D's brother, the next oldest in the line of four boys, got engaged in August and bought a house with his fiancée. So we've been given his old bedroom for our stay, which is much more private than the previous part of the house we'd been using before (the sleeper sofa in the basement, right next to the pool table and storage closets, both of which get tons of traffic).
I'm very grateful, to say the least. I'm uncomfortable admitting that I need space from people sometimes, but it's something I can't ignore -- I tried doing that last Christmas and ended up feeling horribly resentful toward everyone, even D, through the endless stream of activities I felt I couldn't escape. So this year, it's been a particular relief to have a little haven where I can get an hour of quiet time. It's made these last few days so much more enjoyable.
We've done almost one jigsaw puzzle per night with the whole family, played board games, shared cooking duties, planned the annual gingerbread construction project, gone caroling, and talked ourselves hoarse. And I've liked being part of it. Tonight, we're off to D's brother's house for dinner and then maybe some cookie decorating.
Hope you're all having good holidays. I'll post more once we're on our way to our next destination.
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Thesis
- "Writing in My Father's Name: A Diary of Translated Woman's First Year" in Women Writing Culture
- Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You
- Darkroom: A Family Exposure
- Do You Remember Me?: A Father, a Daughter, and a Search for the Self
- Five Thousand Days Like This One
- Giving Up the Ghost
- Middlesex
- Simple Recipes
- The Bishop's Daughter
- The Possibility of Everything
- The Wounded Storyteller: Body, Illness, and Ethics
- Where the Body Meets Memory: An Odyssey of Race, Sexuality and Identity
On commuter relationships
- Commuter Marriages: Worth the Strain?
- Dual Career Couples: The Travails of a Commuter Marriage
- I Was in a Commuter Marriage
- Long-Distance Marriages, Better for Business?
- Love on the Road, Not on the Rocks
- Making Marriage Work from a Distance
- Survival Tips for Commuter Couples
- Ten Things Commuter Couples Need to Know
- Till Work Do Us Part
- Two Cities, Two Careers, Too Much?
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Wednesday, December 23, 2009
The home stretch
Things are quite different here this year -- D's brother, the next oldest in the line of four boys, got engaged in August and bought a house with his fiancée. So we've been given his old bedroom for our stay, which is much more private than the previous part of the house we'd been using before (the sleeper sofa in the basement, right next to the pool table and storage closets, both of which get tons of traffic).
I'm very grateful, to say the least. I'm uncomfortable admitting that I need space from people sometimes, but it's something I can't ignore -- I tried doing that last Christmas and ended up feeling horribly resentful toward everyone, even D, through the endless stream of activities I felt I couldn't escape. So this year, it's been a particular relief to have a little haven where I can get an hour of quiet time. It's made these last few days so much more enjoyable.
We've done almost one jigsaw puzzle per night with the whole family, played board games, shared cooking duties, planned the annual gingerbread construction project, gone caroling, and talked ourselves hoarse. And I've liked being part of it. Tonight, we're off to D's brother's house for dinner and then maybe some cookie decorating.
Hope you're all having good holidays. I'll post more once we're on our way to our next destination.
3 comments:
- TKW said...
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An hour of privacy during the holiday madness? Priceless! Merry Christmas!
- December 26, 2009 at 8:40 AM
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I can't imagine what it's like being part of a big and bustling family. I'm an only child and out here there is just Mr FF and his ma who lives nearby (his brother is back in the UK with his wife and kid). I think the idea of a large jolly crowd is probably better than the actuality of it.
I can totally understand you feeling swamped when in the midst of lots of people. I like to be by myself a lot - just as well seeing as Mr FF is leaving for Paris at the weekend.
I'll be dropping by to take lessons in how to cope in the lonely moments. In the meantime I want to wish you and your family a lovely 2010 - with no more medical tests and a thesis that receives plaudits galore.
x
Julie - December 27, 2009 at 1:29 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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TKW -- no kidding! I couldn't believe it. Worlds of difference for which I am hugely grateful.
FF -- you're so right. Jolly crowds are lovely to imagine when you're not stuck in the middle of one. Most of the time they're not truly jolly anyway, just trying to do a good impression of it, and it grates on everybody else from being so forced!
Thinking of you and Mr. FF as you enter this new chapter in your lives. Thank you for the kind thoughts. Warmest wishes to you too for the new year. - December 28, 2009 at 8:37 PM
3 comments:
An hour of privacy during the holiday madness? Priceless! Merry Christmas!
I can't imagine what it's like being part of a big and bustling family. I'm an only child and out here there is just Mr FF and his ma who lives nearby (his brother is back in the UK with his wife and kid). I think the idea of a large jolly crowd is probably better than the actuality of it.
I can totally understand you feeling swamped when in the midst of lots of people. I like to be by myself a lot - just as well seeing as Mr FF is leaving for Paris at the weekend.
I'll be dropping by to take lessons in how to cope in the lonely moments. In the meantime I want to wish you and your family a lovely 2010 - with no more medical tests and a thesis that receives plaudits galore.
x
Julie
TKW -- no kidding! I couldn't believe it. Worlds of difference for which I am hugely grateful.
FF -- you're so right. Jolly crowds are lovely to imagine when you're not stuck in the middle of one. Most of the time they're not truly jolly anyway, just trying to do a good impression of it, and it grates on everybody else from being so forced!
Thinking of you and Mr. FF as you enter this new chapter in your lives. Thank you for the kind thoughts. Warmest wishes to you too for the new year.
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