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Body: in sickness and in health

I won't lie; this body and I have had our issues with each other for many years. Body image -- sure. Physical and mental overextension -- comes with being a Type A kind of girl. I still struggle with these things, so they show up from time to time in my writing.

More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)

The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.

Travel: neither here nor there

When the person you're married to lives two time zones away, you log a fair number of frequent flier miles. And if you blog about commuter relationships, you log quite a few posts en route too.

Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.

Writing: the long and short of it

Why do I do it? Good question. Maybe it's not so much that I like to write but that I have to write, even when the words refuse to stick to the page. Believe me, I've tried doing other things like majoring in biochemistry (freshman fall, many semesters ago). Within a year, I'd switched to English with a concentration in creative writing and wasn't looking back.

After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.

The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.

Heart: family and friends

I'd have a hard time explaining who I am without being able to talk about the family I grew up in as well as the people I've met beyond its bounds. But even with such context, it's not easy! In the simplest terms, I'm a first-generation Asian-American who has spent most of this life caught between cultures. That, of course, doesn't even begin to describe what I mean to, but there's my first stab at the heart of it all.

That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.

Recommended reading

What do I do when there's too much on my mind and my words won't stick to the page? I escape into someone else's thoughts. Below is a collection of books and articles that have been sources of information, inspiration, and occasional insight for my own work.

Friday, March 12, 2010

Whew

I am, for the time being, very relieved.

I'd been worrying about the looming deadlines for my thesis, which I'd intended to defend in May. With the mess that was these last few weeks and the continuing unpredictable evolution of the narrative I'd been working on throughout the past several months, I was really unsure that I'd have something coherent to submit, much less something well-revised.

So I talked with my advisor today. We were on the phone for nearly an hour about the new developments in the work and the (further) changes in direction it's undergone. And we decided it was absolutely a much better idea for me to give the work and myself the time and space necessary to continue growing. Which means there will be no more talk of a defense until fall.

I have to say, my advisor may not always get what I write, but she does understand me. And thank goodness -- without the flexibility she was able to give me, I was going to be this for sure with an end-of-April deposit deadline:


(I know, I know; it's Spanish for sun, but I'm sure you can imagine how the sign looked from far away when D and I came across this restaurant!)

10 comments:

Sherlock said...

Sounds like a serious stress reduction - which you need right now. Glad it worked out.

Good Enough Woman said...

Such good news! Glad you will have the space and time that you need in order to do your work. So glad!

*raising a glass to you*

Kristen @ Motherese said...

Great news, CT. Hopefully this extension of the deadline will give you time to allow your thesis to grow and breathe the way you want it to.

SuziCate said...

I will have an award waiting for you on my blog in the morning!

Contemporary Troubadour said...

Sherlock, GEW, and Kristen -- thanks :). And GEW, is that port I see? Cheers.

SuziCate -- what fun. I'm coming over!

French Fancy said...

Oh I am glad you have got this extra time to get right into the zone you need to be in to defend your thesis. You have had so many health worries you cannot possibly have been able to concentrate on matters fully over this past awful winter.

Here's to your adviser - not always in tune with you, but here for you when needed

x

TKW said...

Breathing a sigh of relief for you!

And the sign made me laugh :)

Contemporary Troubadour said...

FF -- I had to compile a timeline of all the medical stuff for Dr. Specialist (charting what happened each month starting from September 2008). I couldn't believe, when I was done, how much STUFF had happened between then and now. So it does make sense, in retrospect, that trying to write in the midst of all that was a bit more of a challenge!

TKW -- hee hee, I knew I could count on you for at least a grin there. I think I actually thought of you when we saw the sign; the situation struck the same part of my funny bone as do some of the comics you post over at your place :)

Stacia said...

Hope you stopped in and had a margarita to celebrate your "S-O-L" turning into an honest-to-goodness ray of "sol." =>

Contemporary Troubadour said...

Hee hee, Stacia! We actually went to a different Mexican restaurant a few blocks away called Tequila (no joke).

Thanks for visiting!

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Friday, March 12, 2010

Whew

I am, for the time being, very relieved.

I'd been worrying about the looming deadlines for my thesis, which I'd intended to defend in May. With the mess that was these last few weeks and the continuing unpredictable evolution of the narrative I'd been working on throughout the past several months, I was really unsure that I'd have something coherent to submit, much less something well-revised.

So I talked with my advisor today. We were on the phone for nearly an hour about the new developments in the work and the (further) changes in direction it's undergone. And we decided it was absolutely a much better idea for me to give the work and myself the time and space necessary to continue growing. Which means there will be no more talk of a defense until fall.

I have to say, my advisor may not always get what I write, but she does understand me. And thank goodness -- without the flexibility she was able to give me, I was going to be this for sure with an end-of-April deposit deadline:


(I know, I know; it's Spanish for sun, but I'm sure you can imagine how the sign looked from far away when D and I came across this restaurant!)

10 comments:

Sherlock said...

Sounds like a serious stress reduction - which you need right now. Glad it worked out.

Good Enough Woman said...

Such good news! Glad you will have the space and time that you need in order to do your work. So glad!

*raising a glass to you*

Kristen @ Motherese said...

Great news, CT. Hopefully this extension of the deadline will give you time to allow your thesis to grow and breathe the way you want it to.

SuziCate said...

I will have an award waiting for you on my blog in the morning!

Contemporary Troubadour said...

Sherlock, GEW, and Kristen -- thanks :). And GEW, is that port I see? Cheers.

SuziCate -- what fun. I'm coming over!

French Fancy said...

Oh I am glad you have got this extra time to get right into the zone you need to be in to defend your thesis. You have had so many health worries you cannot possibly have been able to concentrate on matters fully over this past awful winter.

Here's to your adviser - not always in tune with you, but here for you when needed

x

TKW said...

Breathing a sigh of relief for you!

And the sign made me laugh :)

Contemporary Troubadour said...

FF -- I had to compile a timeline of all the medical stuff for Dr. Specialist (charting what happened each month starting from September 2008). I couldn't believe, when I was done, how much STUFF had happened between then and now. So it does make sense, in retrospect, that trying to write in the midst of all that was a bit more of a challenge!

TKW -- hee hee, I knew I could count on you for at least a grin there. I think I actually thought of you when we saw the sign; the situation struck the same part of my funny bone as do some of the comics you post over at your place :)

Stacia said...

Hope you stopped in and had a margarita to celebrate your "S-O-L" turning into an honest-to-goodness ray of "sol." =>

Contemporary Troubadour said...

Hee hee, Stacia! We actually went to a different Mexican restaurant a few blocks away called Tequila (no joke).

Thanks for visiting!