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Body: in sickness and in health
More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)
The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.
Travel: neither here nor there
Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.
Writing: the long and short of it
After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.
The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.
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Why My Fall Made Me Feel So Ashamed11 months ago
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Mantras1 year ago
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Things Fall Apart3 years ago
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#MudpunchKAL20213 years ago
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Your Hard is Hard (The Pandemic Version)4 years ago
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Thank you, and a Look Ahead5 years ago
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A New Chapter9 years ago
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Overnight Research Trip9 years ago
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how to get through a thing10 years ago
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Heart: family and friends
That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.
Recommended reading
Friday, March 12, 2010
Whew
I'd been worrying about the looming deadlines for my thesis, which I'd intended to defend in May. With the mess that was these last few weeks and the continuing unpredictable evolution of the narrative I'd been working on throughout the past several months, I was really unsure that I'd have something coherent to submit, much less something well-revised.
So I talked with my advisor today. We were on the phone for nearly an hour about the new developments in the work and the (further) changes in direction it's undergone. And we decided it was absolutely a much better idea for me to give the work and myself the time and space necessary to continue growing. Which means there will be no more talk of a defense until fall.
I have to say, my advisor may not always get what I write, but she does understand me. And thank goodness -- without the flexibility she was able to give me, I was going to be this for sure with an end-of-April deposit deadline:
(I know, I know; it's Spanish for sun, but I'm sure you can imagine how the sign looked from far away when D and I came across this restaurant!)
Thesis
- "Writing in My Father's Name: A Diary of Translated Woman's First Year" in Women Writing Culture
- Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You
- Darkroom: A Family Exposure
- Do You Remember Me?: A Father, a Daughter, and a Search for the Self
- Five Thousand Days Like This One
- Giving Up the Ghost
- Middlesex
- Simple Recipes
- The Bishop's Daughter
- The Possibility of Everything
- The Wounded Storyteller: Body, Illness, and Ethics
- Where the Body Meets Memory: An Odyssey of Race, Sexuality and Identity
On commuter relationships
- Commuter Marriages: Worth the Strain?
- Dual Career Couples: The Travails of a Commuter Marriage
- I Was in a Commuter Marriage
- Long-Distance Marriages, Better for Business?
- Love on the Road, Not on the Rocks
- Making Marriage Work from a Distance
- Survival Tips for Commuter Couples
- Ten Things Commuter Couples Need to Know
- Till Work Do Us Part
- Two Cities, Two Careers, Too Much?
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Friday, March 12, 2010
Whew
I'd been worrying about the looming deadlines for my thesis, which I'd intended to defend in May. With the mess that was these last few weeks and the continuing unpredictable evolution of the narrative I'd been working on throughout the past several months, I was really unsure that I'd have something coherent to submit, much less something well-revised.
So I talked with my advisor today. We were on the phone for nearly an hour about the new developments in the work and the (further) changes in direction it's undergone. And we decided it was absolutely a much better idea for me to give the work and myself the time and space necessary to continue growing. Which means there will be no more talk of a defense until fall.
I have to say, my advisor may not always get what I write, but she does understand me. And thank goodness -- without the flexibility she was able to give me, I was going to be this for sure with an end-of-April deposit deadline:
(I know, I know; it's Spanish for sun, but I'm sure you can imagine how the sign looked from far away when D and I came across this restaurant!)
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Sounds like a serious stress reduction - which you need right now. Glad it worked out.
- March 12, 2010 at 6:42 PM
- Good Enough Woman said...
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Such good news! Glad you will have the space and time that you need in order to do your work. So glad!
*raising a glass to you* - March 12, 2010 at 10:59 PM
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Great news, CT. Hopefully this extension of the deadline will give you time to allow your thesis to grow and breathe the way you want it to.
- March 13, 2010 at 1:31 PM
- SuziCate said...
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I will have an award waiting for you on my blog in the morning!
- March 13, 2010 at 9:16 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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Sherlock, GEW, and Kristen -- thanks :). And GEW, is that port I see? Cheers.
SuziCate -- what fun. I'm coming over! - March 14, 2010 at 1:37 PM
- French Fancy... said...
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Oh I am glad you have got this extra time to get right into the zone you need to be in to defend your thesis. You have had so many health worries you cannot possibly have been able to concentrate on matters fully over this past awful winter.
Here's to your adviser - not always in tune with you, but here for you when needed
x - March 15, 2010 at 3:15 AM
- TKW said...
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Breathing a sigh of relief for you!
And the sign made me laugh :) - March 15, 2010 at 11:37 AM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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FF -- I had to compile a timeline of all the medical stuff for Dr. Specialist (charting what happened each month starting from September 2008). I couldn't believe, when I was done, how much STUFF had happened between then and now. So it does make sense, in retrospect, that trying to write in the midst of all that was a bit more of a challenge!
TKW -- hee hee, I knew I could count on you for at least a grin there. I think I actually thought of you when we saw the sign; the situation struck the same part of my funny bone as do some of the comics you post over at your place :) - March 17, 2010 at 11:40 AM
- Stacia said...
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Hope you stopped in and had a margarita to celebrate your "S-O-L" turning into an honest-to-goodness ray of "sol." =>
- March 19, 2010 at 6:14 PM
- This Ro(a)mantic Life said...
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Hee hee, Stacia! We actually went to a different Mexican restaurant a few blocks away called Tequila (no joke).
Thanks for visiting! - March 19, 2010 at 6:23 PM
10 comments:
Sounds like a serious stress reduction - which you need right now. Glad it worked out.
Such good news! Glad you will have the space and time that you need in order to do your work. So glad!
*raising a glass to you*
Great news, CT. Hopefully this extension of the deadline will give you time to allow your thesis to grow and breathe the way you want it to.
I will have an award waiting for you on my blog in the morning!
Sherlock, GEW, and Kristen -- thanks :). And GEW, is that port I see? Cheers.
SuziCate -- what fun. I'm coming over!
Oh I am glad you have got this extra time to get right into the zone you need to be in to defend your thesis. You have had so many health worries you cannot possibly have been able to concentrate on matters fully over this past awful winter.
Here's to your adviser - not always in tune with you, but here for you when needed
x
Breathing a sigh of relief for you!
And the sign made me laugh :)
FF -- I had to compile a timeline of all the medical stuff for Dr. Specialist (charting what happened each month starting from September 2008). I couldn't believe, when I was done, how much STUFF had happened between then and now. So it does make sense, in retrospect, that trying to write in the midst of all that was a bit more of a challenge!
TKW -- hee hee, I knew I could count on you for at least a grin there. I think I actually thought of you when we saw the sign; the situation struck the same part of my funny bone as do some of the comics you post over at your place :)
Hope you stopped in and had a margarita to celebrate your "S-O-L" turning into an honest-to-goodness ray of "sol." =>
Hee hee, Stacia! We actually went to a different Mexican restaurant a few blocks away called Tequila (no joke).
Thanks for visiting!
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