(I'm not very good at actually coming up with threats, but I'm cocking a very pointed eyebrow at Monday and everything after it. It's my teacher look, which actually won a stare-down contest in a teacher-training workshop many years ago. See that, next week? See that eyebrow?)
My thesis is moving forward for real. I have two solid chapters that make sense in succession and are pointing very clearly to a third, which is more exciting than I have the means to describe. But it's been drawing on a lot of mental resources, and when I've come to the end of the day, I've had nothing for anyone else. D and I both go through this -- he'll return after a particularly intense day, having successfully left work at work, but he doesn't quite make it home in his state of mind for several hours after he gets through the door. He floats in some kind of limbo that makes for pretty quiet dinners. I understand -- sometimes the brain doesn't reset for a little while. So I leave him alone until he's ready.
Last week was my turn to be zonked -- not just from all the research interviews and the mental gymnastics of writing, but from the emotional pull of trying to tell a difficult story. (Forgive me if I don't get more specific than that; I did just spend the week up to my ears in the details.)
I'm glad the writing is working. But it's at the expense of other pressing concerns I need to resolve, like the fallout of getting sick while no one was around. D and I didn't come through that situation in the best way, and we've wanted to talk about it, but I've been too frayed to do it without getting upset, which D doesn't deal well with. Our attempts to have a conversation about how we handled things on both our ends have been kind of rocky. And then there's the question about what all these seemingly separate problems -- blood sugar, GI tract, kidneys -- are really indicative of. I've pushed that out of my mind for a while, but Labor Day weekend was a reminder that all is not perfectly well and that we still don't have real answers as to why three different body systems decided to get wonky, all starting in the first half of 2009.
So I want some emotional reserves for this stuff. I know I can't always have enough for all of it, but for next week, I need more.
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Fingers crossed you get an easier week waiting for you, CT. As for husbands who arrive in body but with their mind left far behind - yes, I've got one of those here as well. You describe it really accurately.
Sorry to read about the health probs flaring up. You've not had a good year and I hope there is a change of luck very soon.
xx
Unresolved health problems can be frustrating and scary. Hope you can get some answers soon. Here's to a better week!!!
FF -- thanks. It's funny; D really isn't thinking about work anymore when he gets home, but it's like the brain is still on commute even though the body isn't. And it's harder for me to snap out of it, I suppose, because I don't really change locations. When I stop working, I'm still home. Hopefully Mr. FF comes around more quickly than we do :)
Sherlock -- indeed. I wish I had someone looking at the bigger picture. Each specialist keeps his eye on the system he's responsible for, but what I'd love is to get them all in the same room talking to one another.
As you point your eyebrows in a teacherly glare, I am standing next to you, akimbo, daring next week to cause you any trouble.
(((((CT)))))
Two teacher looks are always better than one, GEW :). Thank you.
Bravo for making headway with your thesis, and extra credit for doing this with physical and emotional havac. I know it's exhausting for both of you putting in hard days and then trying to unwind and have time for each other. Life can be stressful at times. I hope it eases a bit and you're able to get some of these health issues at bay. I'm sure D is worried about you on top of everything else. Hugs.
(Hugging away all your worries - or at least trying to) Hope you get some rest, peace and answers soon!
SuziCate -- thanks. We're managing, but sometimes it feels like only just. I know every couple has to learn how to negotiate the stuff life throws at them together rather than as individuals. We're getting lots of practice this year.
Jane -- as my high school economics teacher used to say, merci buckets :). (He would also say, "Tempus fugit -- time for a quiz!" which we all found a lot less funny.)
I wish you an easier week - and bravo on making steady progress with those two chapters - and pointing to a third!
I empathize with the frustration (and fear) of knowing there are medical issues, and not having the answer as to what is going on. It's little consolation, I know, but I understand that uneasy place, and the need to pick ad choose your spots for dealing with other things as a result.
Hugs.
Thanks, BLW. If the medical stuff would kindly suspend itself while we're traveling for that brother-in-law's wedding in a week, I'll take it as a sign of grace from the universe. And if not, well ... back to calling everything random.
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