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Body: in sickness and in health

I won't lie; this body and I have had our issues with each other for many years. Body image -- sure. Physical and mental overextension -- comes with being a Type A kind of girl. I still struggle with these things, so they show up from time to time in my writing.

More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)

The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.

Travel: neither here nor there

When the person you're married to lives two time zones away, you log a fair number of frequent flier miles. And if you blog about commuter relationships, you log quite a few posts en route too.

Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.

Writing: the long and short of it

Why do I do it? Good question. Maybe it's not so much that I like to write but that I have to write, even when the words refuse to stick to the page. Believe me, I've tried doing other things like majoring in biochemistry (freshman fall, many semesters ago). Within a year, I'd switched to English with a concentration in creative writing and wasn't looking back.

After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.

The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.

Heart: family and friends

I'd have a hard time explaining who I am without being able to talk about the family I grew up in as well as the people I've met beyond its bounds. But even with such context, it's not easy! In the simplest terms, I'm a first-generation Asian-American who has spent most of this life caught between cultures. That, of course, doesn't even begin to describe what I mean to, but there's my first stab at the heart of it all.

That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.

Recommended reading

What do I do when there's too much on my mind and my words won't stick to the page? I escape into someone else's thoughts. Below is a collection of books and articles that have been sources of information, inspiration, and occasional insight for my own work.

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Trailblazing

What a weekend.

It was cloudy but dry Saturday morning, so we packed a picnic lunch and headed for one of the state parks outside the city to explore some hiking trails. No, we didn't end up renting bikes -- it was too expensive, we decided, and picking them up would have added some extra driving to the cost (gas is $4.40 per gallon!). So we climbed a small mountain instead and got a nice workout all the same. My hip flexors can still feel it today! Whew.

The trails we used were moderately well-maintained except in a few places where the overgrowth was up past my waist (where's a machete when you need one?). We managed a six-mile loop (about 2,000 vertical feet) in four hours with a stop for lunch. By the end of it, we were quite muddy, but it was worth it for all the fresh air and the peaceful sound of the streams that occasionally crossed our path.

Most of the sights didn't vary much, but the vegetation did change as we got higher. The lower areas were carpeted by ferns that looked like giant carrot tops poking out of the earth, which made me feel like I had wandered into rabbit heaven by accident; the upper ones had holly and more fir trees. At all elevations we came across some interesting fungi that grew out of the sides of tree trunks as if the trees were sticking fat fleshy tongues out at us.

The highlight of the day was the nest of birds we discovered inside one of those trunks. The energetic chirping stopped me on the path next to it, but I couldn't see where the noise was coming from. D walked up to a crack in the bole and realized there were babies inside. An adult with something in its beak landed on a branch not far away and echoed the same call that was coming from the tree, so we stepped back and waited. Sure enough, the bird circled the trunk, slipped through the crack and dropped whatever it was holding inside. Then it zipped back out and disappeared.

Sunday's explorations were more suburban (and thankfully did not involve much walking since we were a bit sore). We didn't find the nest of our dreams (as expected this early in the house-hunting process), but we did learn a lot about the realtors we chose to try out. The first one, who drove us around to the homes we had asked her to show us, was pretty astute -- she had previewed all of the places earlier in the week and pointed out things she thought we might not like about them (but in a way that suggested that they were details to consider bringing up in negotiations, not that they were total dealbreakers). Then she zeroed in on our reactions as we toured each house, observing what we focused on even if we didn't comment out loud. It was almost a little unnerving, but it showed us that she had an eye for detail and was experienced in reading people. The second realtor, on the other hand, did a much more perfunctory job -- not really trying to assess what our tastes were and just talking up the properties in a slightly too transparent sales-minded way. In fact, she talked down about one residence when comparing it to another we were looking at (I can't imagine what its owners would have thought had they heard her). Like they say about job interviews, don't ever be openly negative about former places you've been ...

All in all, quite the learning experience.

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Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Trailblazing

What a weekend.

It was cloudy but dry Saturday morning, so we packed a picnic lunch and headed for one of the state parks outside the city to explore some hiking trails. No, we didn't end up renting bikes -- it was too expensive, we decided, and picking them up would have added some extra driving to the cost (gas is $4.40 per gallon!). So we climbed a small mountain instead and got a nice workout all the same. My hip flexors can still feel it today! Whew.

The trails we used were moderately well-maintained except in a few places where the overgrowth was up past my waist (where's a machete when you need one?). We managed a six-mile loop (about 2,000 vertical feet) in four hours with a stop for lunch. By the end of it, we were quite muddy, but it was worth it for all the fresh air and the peaceful sound of the streams that occasionally crossed our path.

Most of the sights didn't vary much, but the vegetation did change as we got higher. The lower areas were carpeted by ferns that looked like giant carrot tops poking out of the earth, which made me feel like I had wandered into rabbit heaven by accident; the upper ones had holly and more fir trees. At all elevations we came across some interesting fungi that grew out of the sides of tree trunks as if the trees were sticking fat fleshy tongues out at us.

The highlight of the day was the nest of birds we discovered inside one of those trunks. The energetic chirping stopped me on the path next to it, but I couldn't see where the noise was coming from. D walked up to a crack in the bole and realized there were babies inside. An adult with something in its beak landed on a branch not far away and echoed the same call that was coming from the tree, so we stepped back and waited. Sure enough, the bird circled the trunk, slipped through the crack and dropped whatever it was holding inside. Then it zipped back out and disappeared.

Sunday's explorations were more suburban (and thankfully did not involve much walking since we were a bit sore). We didn't find the nest of our dreams (as expected this early in the house-hunting process), but we did learn a lot about the realtors we chose to try out. The first one, who drove us around to the homes we had asked her to show us, was pretty astute -- she had previewed all of the places earlier in the week and pointed out things she thought we might not like about them (but in a way that suggested that they were details to consider bringing up in negotiations, not that they were total dealbreakers). Then she zeroed in on our reactions as we toured each house, observing what we focused on even if we didn't comment out loud. It was almost a little unnerving, but it showed us that she had an eye for detail and was experienced in reading people. The second realtor, on the other hand, did a much more perfunctory job -- not really trying to assess what our tastes were and just talking up the properties in a slightly too transparent sales-minded way. In fact, she talked down about one residence when comparing it to another we were looking at (I can't imagine what its owners would have thought had they heard her). Like they say about job interviews, don't ever be openly negative about former places you've been ...

All in all, quite the learning experience.

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