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Body: in sickness and in health

I won't lie; this body and I have had our issues with each other for many years. Body image -- sure. Physical and mental overextension -- comes with being a Type A kind of girl. I still struggle with these things, so they show up from time to time in my writing.

More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)

The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.

Travel: neither here nor there

When the person you're married to lives two time zones away, you log a fair number of frequent flier miles. And if you blog about commuter relationships, you log quite a few posts en route too.

Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.

Writing: the long and short of it

Why do I do it? Good question. Maybe it's not so much that I like to write but that I have to write, even when the words refuse to stick to the page. Believe me, I've tried doing other things like majoring in biochemistry (freshman fall, many semesters ago). Within a year, I'd switched to English with a concentration in creative writing and wasn't looking back.

After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.

The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.

Heart: family and friends

I'd have a hard time explaining who I am without being able to talk about the family I grew up in as well as the people I've met beyond its bounds. But even with such context, it's not easy! In the simplest terms, I'm a first-generation Asian-American who has spent most of this life caught between cultures. That, of course, doesn't even begin to describe what I mean to, but there's my first stab at the heart of it all.

That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.

Recommended reading

What do I do when there's too much on my mind and my words won't stick to the page? I escape into someone else's thoughts. Below is a collection of books and articles that have been sources of information, inspiration, and occasional insight for my own work.

Thursday, June 26, 2008

What's the plan?


Which one are you asking about? I have about five going simultaneously ...

It came to our attention that we will be leaving in a week for Miami (wedding 2 of 5 plus extended vacation). When we booked our tickets back in April, we figured we should make good use of the trip since the distance we'll be traveling is nearly equivalent to flying across the Atlantic. So we gave ourselves a few more days at our hotel and said we'd decide what else we wanted to see and do in the area after I got done with school. On Monday, we realized that we had nothing lined up yet. This may be a very impromptu sort of vacation.

We do have most of our warm-weather clothing ready to go, which is kick-starting the "exotic getaway" state of mind here despite the chillier temperatures (have I mentioned that it still gets down into the 40s at night?). D and I have both invested in sun-protective clothing so we don't roast while we're at the beach. There is a possibility that we might take a one-day cruise to the Bahamas as well. Stay tuned on that one -- we're looking into the cruise line to see how reputable it is. Beyond that, we're open to suggestions on things to soak up besides sun and frozen drinks. Recommendations, anyone?

On the entrepreneurial front, we did manage to sell the futon (congrats to Buyer No. 3!), which means we have nine square feet of space newly liberated at home. We are also officially registered with Amazon and I've listed the books we want to sell online. Though the likelihood that someone will pay a good price for any of them is kind of low. How do you compete with sellers who list the same titles for $0.01? Fortunately, we happen to live in a city that has Half Price Books. D and I are going to haul our stash there this weekend to see what the store will offer us. If they can beat the average price on Amazon, we'll gladly hand over the goods. Now if we could only find someone who would buy our NordicTrack ski machine -- I have a feeling that it might end up going to Goodwill. We'd like to avoid giving it away for free (new ones retail for $1,000!), so I guess we'll just keep watching the Craigslist "wanted" forum.

Speaking of avoidance, I've been hiding from our realtor. She is
h-u-u-u-ngry! Which is a good thing -- she's worked very hard to send us many listings that suit our needs and tastes -- but we can't get her to stop hounding us about obtaining a pre-approval letter from a lender (her in-house folks, naturally). D and I are going to have to get creative with excuses on why we haven't called any of her recommendees yet. "We'd like to do it when we're both available to chat with them," was the last thing I came up with on the fly when the realtor called me at home from a number I didn't recognize (programmed that one into the phone right after she hung up!). I researched the lenders this morning just to see if it really was worth giving them a ring, and it turns out that both are only local organizations (independent mortgage brokers, not affiliated with any banks per se). One of their websites, in fact, had a ton of broken links, which inspired little confidence. Ironically, the only link that did seem to work was to customer testimonials (all good, of course, but given the context, not so reliable). Maybe I'll mention that when she brings up the lenders again (because you know she will) while we're looking at more houses with her on Saturday.

The real reason we're stalling is that we don't intend to buy a house in the next three months, which, for many lenders, is about the average shelf-life for pre-approval letters. Getting pre-approved means having our credit checked, and having "hard" inquiries into our credit will affect our scores if we go through this process every few months in the next year. Hence our resistance.

What we do plan to do, however, is bring me home to Seattle after the next school year ends, and then we can look at buying in earnest. Yes, we've decided that keeping me in Iowa to write my thesis during the third year of the program will be too expensive with travel and renting the extra apartment, even if I have a TA salary. So, as much as I'd like to teach that extra year for the experience, D and I are definitely planning a permanent reunion for May 2009. I know, I know, "permanent" was what we said last time, but I think we've both determined that we'd rather find alternative solutions to furthering our careers instead of having a third round of commuting.

As for the Plan (i.e., what I'm going to do with my life), the jury is out on that one, and I'm okay with that for now.

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Thursday, June 26, 2008

What's the plan?


Which one are you asking about? I have about five going simultaneously ...

It came to our attention that we will be leaving in a week for Miami (wedding 2 of 5 plus extended vacation). When we booked our tickets back in April, we figured we should make good use of the trip since the distance we'll be traveling is nearly equivalent to flying across the Atlantic. So we gave ourselves a few more days at our hotel and said we'd decide what else we wanted to see and do in the area after I got done with school. On Monday, we realized that we had nothing lined up yet. This may be a very impromptu sort of vacation.

We do have most of our warm-weather clothing ready to go, which is kick-starting the "exotic getaway" state of mind here despite the chillier temperatures (have I mentioned that it still gets down into the 40s at night?). D and I have both invested in sun-protective clothing so we don't roast while we're at the beach. There is a possibility that we might take a one-day cruise to the Bahamas as well. Stay tuned on that one -- we're looking into the cruise line to see how reputable it is. Beyond that, we're open to suggestions on things to soak up besides sun and frozen drinks. Recommendations, anyone?

On the entrepreneurial front, we did manage to sell the futon (congrats to Buyer No. 3!), which means we have nine square feet of space newly liberated at home. We are also officially registered with Amazon and I've listed the books we want to sell online. Though the likelihood that someone will pay a good price for any of them is kind of low. How do you compete with sellers who list the same titles for $0.01? Fortunately, we happen to live in a city that has Half Price Books. D and I are going to haul our stash there this weekend to see what the store will offer us. If they can beat the average price on Amazon, we'll gladly hand over the goods. Now if we could only find someone who would buy our NordicTrack ski machine -- I have a feeling that it might end up going to Goodwill. We'd like to avoid giving it away for free (new ones retail for $1,000!), so I guess we'll just keep watching the Craigslist "wanted" forum.

Speaking of avoidance, I've been hiding from our realtor. She is
h-u-u-u-ngry! Which is a good thing -- she's worked very hard to send us many listings that suit our needs and tastes -- but we can't get her to stop hounding us about obtaining a pre-approval letter from a lender (her in-house folks, naturally). D and I are going to have to get creative with excuses on why we haven't called any of her recommendees yet. "We'd like to do it when we're both available to chat with them," was the last thing I came up with on the fly when the realtor called me at home from a number I didn't recognize (programmed that one into the phone right after she hung up!). I researched the lenders this morning just to see if it really was worth giving them a ring, and it turns out that both are only local organizations (independent mortgage brokers, not affiliated with any banks per se). One of their websites, in fact, had a ton of broken links, which inspired little confidence. Ironically, the only link that did seem to work was to customer testimonials (all good, of course, but given the context, not so reliable). Maybe I'll mention that when she brings up the lenders again (because you know she will) while we're looking at more houses with her on Saturday.

The real reason we're stalling is that we don't intend to buy a house in the next three months, which, for many lenders, is about the average shelf-life for pre-approval letters. Getting pre-approved means having our credit checked, and having "hard" inquiries into our credit will affect our scores if we go through this process every few months in the next year. Hence our resistance.

What we do plan to do, however, is bring me home to Seattle after the next school year ends, and then we can look at buying in earnest. Yes, we've decided that keeping me in Iowa to write my thesis during the third year of the program will be too expensive with travel and renting the extra apartment, even if I have a TA salary. So, as much as I'd like to teach that extra year for the experience, D and I are definitely planning a permanent reunion for May 2009. I know, I know, "permanent" was what we said last time, but I think we've both determined that we'd rather find alternative solutions to furthering our careers instead of having a third round of commuting.

As for the Plan (i.e., what I'm going to do with my life), the jury is out on that one, and I'm okay with that for now.

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