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Body: in sickness and in health

I won't lie; this body and I have had our issues with each other for many years. Body image -- sure. Physical and mental overextension -- comes with being a Type A kind of girl. I still struggle with these things, so they show up from time to time in my writing.

More recently, illness, pure but not simple, has added itself to the mix in a multi-system sort of way. And the challenges in figuring out exactly what's gone wrong are many. As problems have revealed themselves in the last few years, beginning with reactive hypoglycemia in late 2008, I've documented them here, partly to gain a little clarity on managing complex conditions but mostly to give voice to vulnerabilities I feel but don't normally share with anyone face to face. Better out than in, they say, right? (Oh yes, humor is one way I deal.)

The links below cover the different angles I've examined (and from which I've been examined) within that experience.

Travel: neither here nor there

When the person you're married to lives two time zones away, you log a fair number of frequent flier miles. And if you blog about commuter relationships, you log quite a few posts en route too.

Since we're no longer in separate places, I blog less often from airports. But we do travel -- together now! -- which is much more fun to write about. So in addition to thoughts on our years of commuting, the links below cover the places we've been as a pair and, in some cases, the adventures that have happened on the way.

Writing: the long and short of it

Why do I do it? Good question. Maybe it's not so much that I like to write but that I have to write, even when the words refuse to stick to the page. Believe me, I've tried doing other things like majoring in biochemistry (freshman fall, many semesters ago). Within a year, I'd switched to English with a concentration in creative writing and wasn't looking back.

After graduating, I taught English for a few years and then worked as an editor, which I still do freelance. In 2007, I applied and got into an MFA program at a place I like to call Little U. on the Prairie. I finished my degree in 2011 and have been balancing tutoring and writing on my own ever since.

The following links cover the writing I've done about writing: process, content, obstacles, you name it. It's not always pretty. But some part of me loves it, even when it's hard. And this is the result.

Heart: family and friends

I'd have a hard time explaining who I am without being able to talk about the family I grew up in as well as the people I've met beyond its bounds. But even with such context, it's not easy! In the simplest terms, I'm a first-generation Asian-American who has spent most of this life caught between cultures. That, of course, doesn't even begin to describe what I mean to, but there's my first stab at the heart of it all.

That's what this group of posts is reserved for -- heart. The essential parts of my life whose influences I carry with me, for better or worse. The links below cover what I've written as I've learned how these forces work within me, for me, against me, in spite of me. They anchor me even as they change me, and they keep life interesting.

Recommended reading

What do I do when there's too much on my mind and my words won't stick to the page? I escape into someone else's thoughts. Below is a collection of books and articles that have been sources of information, inspiration, and occasional insight for my own work.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Wheel we or won't we?

It depends, as they say, on the weather.

D and I took a lovely trip to San Francisco for our birthdays a year and a few months ago (that week also happened to coincide with a conference and employment fair that unexpectedly yielded D his current job). While we were there, we rented some bikes and pedaled along the coast, ending with an exhilarating ride across the Golden Gate Bridge. I think I grinned like a small child the entire time, which is saying a lot. I'm not normally an effusively grinny person, and certainly not in the euphoric sense. People who know me would be quicker to use words like "ironic" (or, if they wanted to be blunt, "cynical" and "sarcastic") to describe my usual brand of humor. I try to keep that more in check here -- it's too easily misinterpreted no matter how many emoticons one might use to convey tone, etc. -- but in person, I fall more into the camp of those who appreciate the art of cracking wise. Though not unkindly.

All this is to say that if it's sunny tomorrow, we might get to go biking again, and I'm excited.

We've had rain nearly every day in the last week, but the sky has been dry for the last 48 hours. The locals have been complaining about the cold and the wet that have dogged this area all spring -- I don't mind it at all; I'm so spoiled to have 60-degree temps when the rest of the country is sweltering -- but it would be nice if the precipitation holds off for another day so we can have this outing.

It would also be nice if the weather would give some relief to Iowa and the rest of the Midwest! I've been keeping an eye on my home away from home, and the flood reports are dire. I've been lucky so far; my building is located on a sizable hill, so the danger of water damage isn't imminent (I called the apartment manager this morning to get a status report). Many of the city's main thoroughfares, however, are completely submerged. Whole neighborhoods have been evacuated, and it doesn't look like the water levels are going to go down until next week -- if the storms subside for a few days.

On a lighter note, D took the personality test that I tried yesterday, and it turns out that we are almost complete opposites (not surprising). He's extroverted, intuitive, thinking, and judging (ENTJ), which means we're a very good balance for each other. But we're also methodologically divergent when it comes to problem solving, which could suggest an increased chance for tiffs in that arena. No relationship gets to be blissful all the time -- judging by how we've done over the years, I think the balance we bring each other trumps the occasional flare-up pretty well. And we're definitely counting on that to get through next year's commute.

2 comments:

Jacqueline said...

It has been said that the best couples are those who are either exactly the same, or exactly opposite. I'm not surprised. :)

Bev said...

I'm ESFJ myself :)

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Friday, June 13, 2008

Wheel we or won't we?

It depends, as they say, on the weather.

D and I took a lovely trip to San Francisco for our birthdays a year and a few months ago (that week also happened to coincide with a conference and employment fair that unexpectedly yielded D his current job). While we were there, we rented some bikes and pedaled along the coast, ending with an exhilarating ride across the Golden Gate Bridge. I think I grinned like a small child the entire time, which is saying a lot. I'm not normally an effusively grinny person, and certainly not in the euphoric sense. People who know me would be quicker to use words like "ironic" (or, if they wanted to be blunt, "cynical" and "sarcastic") to describe my usual brand of humor. I try to keep that more in check here -- it's too easily misinterpreted no matter how many emoticons one might use to convey tone, etc. -- but in person, I fall more into the camp of those who appreciate the art of cracking wise. Though not unkindly.

All this is to say that if it's sunny tomorrow, we might get to go biking again, and I'm excited.

We've had rain nearly every day in the last week, but the sky has been dry for the last 48 hours. The locals have been complaining about the cold and the wet that have dogged this area all spring -- I don't mind it at all; I'm so spoiled to have 60-degree temps when the rest of the country is sweltering -- but it would be nice if the precipitation holds off for another day so we can have this outing.

It would also be nice if the weather would give some relief to Iowa and the rest of the Midwest! I've been keeping an eye on my home away from home, and the flood reports are dire. I've been lucky so far; my building is located on a sizable hill, so the danger of water damage isn't imminent (I called the apartment manager this morning to get a status report). Many of the city's main thoroughfares, however, are completely submerged. Whole neighborhoods have been evacuated, and it doesn't look like the water levels are going to go down until next week -- if the storms subside for a few days.

On a lighter note, D took the personality test that I tried yesterday, and it turns out that we are almost complete opposites (not surprising). He's extroverted, intuitive, thinking, and judging (ENTJ), which means we're a very good balance for each other. But we're also methodologically divergent when it comes to problem solving, which could suggest an increased chance for tiffs in that arena. No relationship gets to be blissful all the time -- judging by how we've done over the years, I think the balance we bring each other trumps the occasional flare-up pretty well. And we're definitely counting on that to get through next year's commute.

2 comments:

Jacqueline said...

It has been said that the best couples are those who are either exactly the same, or exactly opposite. I'm not surprised. :)

Bev said...

I'm ESFJ myself :)